Aya- 好きな人
あやちゃんとは、１０年前から毎年一度は撮影をさせて頂いている。撮影するたびに素敵な女性になっていく姿を見させてもらえているのは貴重な経験で嬉しく思う
今回は特別に彼女との過去の写真たちを合間に入れ込んで読んで頂けるようにしました。
彼女はいつも気にかけ連絡をしてくれているし、今回のコロナの件でも連絡をくれた。こうして久々な人もそうでいない人も私を少しでも思っていてくれるという事に気づかされるこのステイホーム生活。
こんな状況だけれど、こもり生活１ヶ月半たった今、不思議とこの時間と気づきのギフトを頂いているような日々を過ごしている。そういった周りの人たちへの感謝の気持ちを再確認するチャンスをもらったようなそんな気がする。
好きな人
その思いと感謝を胸に、今回もあやちゃんにこのレンズの向こうに今の自分を伝えたい・残したい人を聞いたところ”好きな人”と彼女らしい答えをもらい話を始めた。
彼女は常に恋をしている, それが素敵なところ
１０年前からそれは変わっていない気がする、会うたびに恋はいつもしてます！と笑顔でいう彼女を見て来た。だから彼女はいつも輝いているのかもしれない
では自粛期間だからこそ変わった事も探ってみたいと思い、ステイホーム中はどう過ごしているのか尋ねると
東京で１ヶ月の自粛生活を独りで過ごしているが実質かなり充実していて、一つの事に没頭することが好きというあやちゃんは毎日が楽しいという。
むしろ新しい発見や目標が生まれたりして未来に向けて前向きな姿勢はもっとも彼女らしい。
お料理もかなり凝っていていつも写真が素敵なのでインスタチェックしてください〜
結婚
そんな中、意識が変わった事の一つが”結婚”というテーマ。それを現実的に考え始めたという。だから、今回のメッセージを送る相手を”好きな人”と決めたという。
そうはいえ、恋だけに固執せず自分磨きができるところもあやちゃんの素敵なところ
実際、私の周りの女性はみんなかなりポジティブで強い人たちが多い事に感心する。
恋のスイッチ
今までの人生ではやはり仕事を優先してきた彼女、私も同じく〜〜〜と言う事に当然なるのだが... もちろん、仕事が好きで、没頭し続けての結果
”恋愛のスイッチを入れないと、恋愛には発展しない”と誰かに言われた
私もよく言われるが... どうやって入れればいいの〜？と聞くw
あやちゃんはこのステイホームでそのスイッチを入れると言う意味を知ったと言う。羨ましい限り....w
今立ち止まってみて恋愛という事にフォーカスするという意識をし始めたという。
そう、そのスイッチとは恋愛・好きな人を思うという時間とスペースを作るという単純な事なのかもしれないと思った（そのスイッチをどこかに置いて来てしまった気がする私であるが...w）
時間を作るとあえていう理由は仕事に生きて来た女性にとって生活の他の時間は大半他の何かで占め尽くされているからだ。と言うことは、今まで当たり前にして来た何かを犠牲にする覚悟ができた。と言うことなのかもしれない。
そう言うこと全てを含めて素直になって実践できる様になったという彼女はやはり柔らかさと、鋭さを両方兼ねそろえたお方
変わったこと
ふとした話の流れから、私と初めて会った１０年前から変わった事は何かという話になると、強くなったと彼女は言う。少しの事ではへこたれないですよ〜！と笑顔で。。。
MISS UNIVERSE JAPAN 2012のファイナリストとしてご紹介頂いたあの頃も女子の中勝ち残った強さのようなモノを感じたが、私は柔らかいあやちゃんとしか面識が無い。彼女のコーチとして後輩へ教える姿を見たり、聞いたりするととても真の強い厳しい人な一面もある。
そして、かなりサバサバしていて情で動くよりはなんでも割り切っているところがかっこいい
例えば、コーチをしている時に個人的な相談を受けても線を引くようにしていると言う。
今ではお仕事の幅も広げ、沢山の経験をへて、柔らかさ、女性的な強さが増し彼女を更に耀かせている様な気がする
好きな人との行方はどうであれ、スカッと彼女らしい恋愛をしていくであろうことは想像がつくが、何よりも、この今のあやちゃんの姿を将来結ばれる人に是非見て、読んでもらえたら嬉しい
そしていつか、彼女の未来の旦那さまとお酒でも飲みながらあやちゃんへのLOVEを分かち合える日がくるといいなぁと勝手に望んでいる
このステイホームで恋愛事情がかなり変わったと言うことをすごく聞く様になったがこんな形も一つであり、一人一人が人生について考える良き機会になっていることは間違いない事をセッションごとに感じる
そして、毎回自分への学びともなっている、今回は恋愛スイッチを入れよう！w
好きを感じる意識が大事なのかもしれない、なのでこの意識を始めた私にも何か進展があることを期待したいw
では最後に、更に輝くあやちゃんと久々の長話できてと〜ても楽しかったしドキドキさせてもらえました！ありがとう
これからも、恋をし続けて、さらに輝く未来のあやちゃんを応援しております〜
進展あった時また連絡くーださい
以前撮影させて頂いた写真も好きだけど、このプロジェクトが大好きな理由は本当のに素の自分なみんなと話せて、そのナチュラルな表情が撮れることが楽しみ！
ぜひ、下のアルバムとスタジオ撮影を見比べてみていただきたい ：）
Thank you so much
Lina
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Aya- to my lover
I met Aya through our common friend about 10 years ago. Our mutual friend connected us to shoot together. Since then, we’ve had photo sessions every year. I’m always amused by how beautiful and independent of a woman she has become.
I’m placing photos of our collaborative history here for this session. Please see the relationship that we have built through the images : )
She messages me once in a while to say hi and see how I'm doing even when we are an ocean apart. She is such a caring person, and this time with COVID she did contact me to see how everything is going with my life in NYC. I have felt so much warmth and love from many of my friends who contacted me during this quarantine. It has been the source of my energy and power for myself to give to others. I even think that this time has given me the chance to really appreciate all that I have.
LOVE
I have asked her the same question, “ Who would you be leaving a message to on the other side of this lens.” She has decided to dedicate this to the person she LOVEs.
She always has someone in mind and that has not changed since 10 years ago.
That is probably where her constant glow comes from.
Then I had to ask how she has been dealing with the situation of this quarantine in Tokyo, living by herself.
She goes, I’ve been enjoying the time and love spending time researching things, and self improvement has been her joy - which led her to oversee her life and find her new goals for the future. Cooking is one of them and her dishes look amazing! Check out her instagram!
MARRIAGE
Of all things that she has researched and discovered, MARRIAGE was a thing that changed in her. She started to think more seriously and realistic towards having a love of her life.
That is why she decided to choose “the LOVER” to deliver this message to.
Just because she is in LOVE does not mean that she will be only thinking of him. Instead, she focuses on learning and improving herself.
I'm impressed that most of the women I know were super positive during this quarantine and are very proud of them for the fact!
Aya has prioritized work first like most working women. It doesn't mean that she discarded her love life but it is natural to not have enough time to spare when your life contains many other things to fill and lacks the space and time for a lovelife.
SWITCH
However, she learned how to turn on the LOVE switch ON!!! She says! And of course I had to ask how??? haha
She said that one of her friends told her that she needs to do that in order to find someone.
Yes, “it is easier said than done” I know for myself.
But I started to think, it may just be very simple. Just learn to make time to accept someone else in your life and maybe spend a little less time on other things. Which might mean you will have to sacrifice a few things that you have been prioritizing in the past...
During this quarantine, she did really focus on doing that. It is hard to adjust the lifestyle if you have been living with work as a priority, but she did it! She let her guard down to devote the time towards someone who she loves. Which is a brave thing to do. She is strong but not stubborn, that is her charm.
Thick SKIN
Thinking of how she has always been a person who is affectionate seems like she has been always looking for that GUY so I had to ask what she thinks changed about herself since the first time we met about 10 years ago.
Then, she goes, I have tough skin now. Little things will not bring her down.
She already had the strength in her when I first met her, especially being nominated as the MISS UNIVERSE JAPAN 2012 finalist amongst many women, although I only saw the soft side of her. Eventually, when I saw her coaching future contestants, I learned that she could also be very serious and tough.
EXPANSION
I was also intrigued by the fact she is very objective and doesn’t get into the emotional mode when she is coaching. Which I feel is common with females as their nature to be emotionally involved. Love that about her.
She has no problem to draw the line and say IT is what it is so go on! To anyone who comes to lean from her.
Now, her career has led to experience broader visions and she became more grounded within the strength as a woman.
WEll, no matter what happens with the person she loves now. I'm pretty sure that she will be making actions towards her happiness.
I am looking forward to meeting her future husband and sharing this story and talking about how lovely she is with a glass of wine. That will be my dream with AYA.
This quarantine life has changed perspectives about dating, love life, even just LIFE itself.
In every session, I feel that every single person has been thinking about LIFE itself and it has been a great opportunity to self-reflect.
It has certainly been my learning process for myself and this time I learned that there is a switch to put on a LOVE mood! Haha
Without a doubt, there needs to be some space in myself to be open up and be aware of my emotions.
Then, I may be able to find something along the way.
Finally, it was such a fun time chatting with you AYA. Can't wait to hear about how your love story leads to happiness.
Please keep me posted :)
Love, Lina
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